It amazes me how often we are willing to point a finger at God for anything painful or disappointing in our own lives. Where was he? Why didn't he stop this? But we also forget He gave us free will, and were we seeking His will or determined to walk our own roads?
Angry at others: Angry, want to retaliate? Is it just festering inside of you. Are you seething? I had one of my family call last night and he/she wanted to know what another family member was saying. I said why? They thought they should know. I said knowing isn't going to change anything. There isn't anything you can do about it. And in fact you are just going to get angrier and than when you confront the person you are going to repeat what you have been told and it's going to drag everyone else into this. Ohhhh this family member was not happy with me. But the truth is... he/she feeds on what the others do, gets angry about it, feels used, but who is it that allows themself to be used? And than this person gets angrier, goes on pity parties, plays the martyr. Well guess what hunny... you are doing it to yourself.
Escaping reality: This is one I know really well. If I am hurting I will play games to distract myself from the hate. I will read more often. I know when my youngest son is stressing more because he will play xbox nightly.
Isolating ones self: I forgot about this one until just now. You want to be away from people. You want to lick your wounds in private. However I want to break this one down a tiny bit further. I had something painful happen almost a year ago and I did isolate myself away from quite a few people. Part of the reason I did was because I was feeling shame. It wasn't that I did anything that I should feel shame for, but I was taking on someone else's shame. Which I guess should have been mentioned under shame.... so let's side note here... sometimes we carry other's burdens and shame. I know a girl whose brother was a killer.. she carried the shame of his crimes. Think about that.
Back to the isolating. I did not isolate myself from everyone, only those who would add to the pain or shame.... that would not build me up but tear me down. So there are situations where you might want to consider partially isolating yourself. Maybe that is not the right word in this circumstance. Maybe the right word is choosing who are real friends and who are not.
Angry at others: Angry, want to retaliate? Is it just festering inside of you. Are you seething? I had one of my family call last night and he/she wanted to know what another family member was saying. I said why? They thought they should know. I said knowing isn't going to change anything. There isn't anything you can do about it. And in fact you are just going to get angrier and than when you confront the person you are going to repeat what you have been told and it's going to drag everyone else into this. Ohhhh this family member was not happy with me. But the truth is... he/she feeds on what the others do, gets angry about it, feels used, but who is it that allows themself to be used? And than this person gets angrier, goes on pity parties, plays the martyr. Well guess what hunny... you are doing it to yourself.
Escaping reality: This is one I know really well. If I am hurting I will play games to distract myself from the hate. I will read more often. I know when my youngest son is stressing more because he will play xbox nightly.
Isolating ones self: I forgot about this one until just now. You want to be away from people. You want to lick your wounds in private. However I want to break this one down a tiny bit further. I had something painful happen almost a year ago and I did isolate myself away from quite a few people. Part of the reason I did was because I was feeling shame. It wasn't that I did anything that I should feel shame for, but I was taking on someone else's shame. Which I guess should have been mentioned under shame.... so let's side note here... sometimes we carry other's burdens and shame. I know a girl whose brother was a killer.. she carried the shame of his crimes. Think about that.
Back to the isolating. I did not isolate myself from everyone, only those who would add to the pain or shame.... that would not build me up but tear me down. So there are situations where you might want to consider partially isolating yourself. Maybe that is not the right word in this circumstance. Maybe the right word is choosing who are real friends and who are not.